Have you been in situationship after situationship? Or are you currently in a relationship where you're feeling unsatisfied?
Do you watch your life fall apart after these men come in and drain you emotionally, physically, and sometimes even financially as a result of your exhaustion?
When we allow broken men and are settling for crumbs, what's really happening is
a) we are literally desperate for the crumbs and it's better than the negative state of love and safety we are currently in.
b) we are not feeling full 100% worthy of what we exactly want and therefore since we already have decided we won't get it, we settle/sacrifice (often for the guy we're attracted to but doesn't treat us right).
I know this pattern well! You are not alone, and you can break it.
When you have a belief that the "right love" will finally fix all your problems and all of a sudden you will be happy, you are outsourcing happiness to finding the right love.
Your brain is smart. If love outside of yourself is going to be the answer to happiness (or so it believes) then hyper-focusing on finding love/being in a relationship with someone is all that makes sense instead of focusing our attention on actually fixing our own life/the problems that are causing the misalignments.
A man and a relationship are not the answer to your long sought after happiness and contentment. It's not the final missing piece even if you've believed this all of your life! But until you actually figure out what IS the answer to your peace and happiness, you will keep searching it for it in them and not find success in relationship.
I highly recommend removing yourself energetically and physically before using your words. It's more effective on men. And spend as much time as you need away to clear your charge before communicating. Your space won't scare them away it will actually provoke curiosity.
When you are over-functioning and giving more than what you are receiving it is coming from a void within. When you "give" you're actually secretly trying to get.
So when you don't NEED anything from them (sex, love, intimacy, attention, etc.) then you will have no reason to over give and no challenge pulling away when you're not getting because there's just no reason to be there.
You don't need crumbs when you're entire life is the cake.
We are turning into the CAKE in my advanced feminine energy healing series... Becoming The Prize: Clear Your Womb To Prepare For Love